it’s not your story

You might assume your food comes from the sky before it arrives at Walmart because it’s in-store every morning.

You might assume the right to speech online because we’ve all been given a mega(i)Phone.

We believe ourselves the center of some grand story because we’ve never read another’s. This is a spiritual pitfall in a digital age.


With agrarian society’s end, we lost touch with food’s source.

Processed food, GMO’s, additives and substitutes. These rob nature of her privilege of provision. Favor Delivery, DoorDash, and online shopping further divorce us from the origins of our daily sustenance.

Regardless of creator’s intent or context, we’re adamant “freedom of speech” is a built-in feature to our identity and we ignore its misuse and abuse in online spaces (…and in offline spaces: the sale of “F— Biden” flags in parts of the south should cause deep sadness for all at the state of our political polarization and gross mistreatment of the privilege to speak our minds).

Only in May of 2021 did Twitter add a prompt to users to reconsider “potentially harmful or offensive language” in tweets or comments (I won’t even criticize the fact that this prompt only appears for explicit language and not more subtly crafted disinformation or slander, and ask, why did this take so long? 15 years of hate-speech and cruelty too late).

Twitter’s lead, “what’s happening“, fails to advise you of your tweet’s public immortality. It reinforces a solitary and selfish story-telling paradigm.

This (among a devolution of too many of our cognitive abilities thanks to social media) is a reason for the slow dying of books and reading in America. We no longer believe someone else’s story to be relevant to us. Now, it’s paramount that my story/post/tweet is heard by my followers (a term historically attributed to followers of religious figures who truly are central to a people’s story).

An intriguing trend in our cultural moment is the ‘everyman’ as a frequent protagonist. Filmmakers in the mainstream desire to create a hero the viewer can relate to or see in themselves.

This is not the purpose of a story.

A story (especially, an origin) tells another human’s struggles. No clichés.
It doesn’t put you in their shoes- it reminds you their feet are a different size. No hand-holding. It gives you the raw, unfiltered version.

We need to be constantly reminded that our story is not whole.

Plant a garden. Engage history to learn the origin of free speech. Read someone else’s story (not on Instagram Stories… because it has to be said).


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Twitter virtues

Social media is void of opportunity for integrity and full of depravity, training our virtues in the wrong direction.

The proliferation of twitter-wars and online harassment have left us unaccountable. The most platforms will do to reprimand users is shut down their (typically anonymous) accounts- hardly a slap on the wrist.

Interacting in perceived isolation, an internet user will callously or consciously act. What dictates a person’s actions when they live in a digital-forrest disguised as a physical echo chamber?

Prolific conservationist and author, Aldo Leopold writes of the solitary sport of hunting in the same light:

Whatever the hunter’s acts, they are dictated by his own conscience, rather than by a mob of onlookers…
Voluntary adherence to an ethical code elevates the self-respect of the sportsmen, but it should not be forgotten that voluntary disregard of the code degenerate and depraves him.

A Sand County Almanac

What if there was accountability in our networks for slander and cruelty? Could we remake social media like a true society with checks and balances?

What if we could have a mental health department devoted to checking public digital spaces to identify users at risk before the damaging effects of social media go to far?

We are behind the curve. The UK holds an appointed office for a political Minister of Loneliness devoted to bringing cross-community services together around those experiencing isolation (created pre-COVID; now especially vital).

Before this, we still must ask how we are training ethics through digital platforms. We’re setting users up for profound failure or neutral complacency about the existence of these choices.

Such deer-hunting is not only without social value, but constitutes actual training for ethical depravity elsewhere.


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what’s costly

Why is manipulative design cheap while permissive design is costly?

We know the tricks- the limbic hijacks to take over a person’s attention circuitry, notifications to evoke curiosity, “Hot Deals” to soothe buyer’s remorse, a smattering of fake-not-fake testimonials to increase authenticity.

These are a dime-a-dozen and effortless to cram onto our site.

What’s hard is not taking shortcuts to build loyalty. Not using clickbait to gain viewers. Not advertising half-truths (or blatant lies, because sadly it needs to be said).

When we give our whole pitch from a place of respect for human attention and dignity, it looks different- and it’s much harder…

But not really. Because long-term trust is built. More opportunities for a strong customer base appear. More opportunities to resist the race to the bottom mentality means elevating our collective ethical restraint and integrity.

You put in the premium for trust, and the work pays for itself.

The best shortcut, in this case, is no shortcut at all.

Seth Godin on Permission Marketting

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design

A friend sent me a photo of his engagement alongside a message about his attempt to get away from social media. It wasn’t going well.


glossary

It’s gone too far and it’s too far gone- writing anything else would be an untruth- It’s too far gone, but you and your attention are not.

What would it look like for a network we call social to be made up of a true picture of society?

Social is not an algorithm built to decide what you see. Social is not giving the keys to advertising companies out for a profit. Social is not the 1% of rich, famous, cool, or hip populating your feed.

I believe there is a version of social media we could create that takes the user into account- we’re just not there yet. Where we are (and a starting point for this conversation) is design.


Marketing students who focus in digital marketing become adept at something called “conversions.” A conversion is a sale or (in a broader sense) movement of a consumer towards an engagement metric measured (subscribe, buy, view).

Conversion can be suggestive, persuasive, or manipulative. Imagine a scale marketers can dial to raise engagement. Low success to high success, but (counter-intuitively) high cost to low cost. Manipulative conversion has high success but very low cost.

Scam sites litter their pages with bright, red “Buy Now” buttons next to auto-playing video advertisements. It’s unhelpfully sorted, unnecessarily sorted, and grotesquely manipulative of our base instincts and neuroscience.



We may view these features as “distracting” or “annoying” but this view is dangerously naive. James Williams (of Time Well Spent) writes, “In the short-term, distractions keep us from doing the things we want to do. In the longer term, however, they can accumulate and keep us from living the lives we want to live…”

This is the heart of conversion-centered design.

Even at the suggestive level, we are influenced to do things we don’t want to do. Look at the chart above. This study was taken from a LinkedIn page (arguably the least attention stealing social media), so just imagine the manipulative design features saturated on platforms like Instagram and Facebook.


This may be a question you’ve had:
Why should I leave social media?

Design is an iceberg tip of polarization, disinformation, mental health problems, online bullying, addictive hooks, false realities, and a greedy attention economy.

I wish this wasn’t true. Connection and life-giving community are essential to our survival, and digital spaces could be a new frontier for so many displaced by toxic culture. I wish that world existed… but social media is inherently built wrong. Manipulative design is a core feature, not a bug in the system.

The question isn’t “why should I leave“… Why would you stay?


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a marketer’s confession

I wish I could say I didn’t believe in marketing. That would be the easy way out.

No, my confession is that I fully believe in marketing. I believe we have been convinced of everything we believe because of marketing. I believe we have built unique lifestyles because of a marketer’s influence.

Worst of all, I believe we need marketing. But first, we need a Marketing Reformation.

The seeds are slowly being planted-do you see it? Third-party tracking disabled, ethical advertisement design conversations in the Senate, the past decade of alternative systems for business outreach (permission marketing, the 3 P’s, a gift economy not based on market scarcity).

There is more than a corrupted system bent on financial maximization. There is crowdfunding products we support, patron investors in creative work that inspires, ethical goods with a transparent premium to support human dignity…

There is more to unpack, but it needs to be acknowledged-
Marketing (alongside religion) is the most influential tool of culture.

How will we perceive it? How will we use it?


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